Fred and Mary
Dear Birthparent(s),
We just want to say how thankful we are for choosing life for your child and for considering placing your child with adoptive parents. Let us introduce ourselves. We are Fred and Mary. We have been married for almost 14 years. Four years ago, we adopted our daughter, Abigail.
We live in a suburb of a large Midwest city. We have a medium sized ranch home with a large yard and lots of trees. Our neighborhood is great with two parks, the library, a public pool, the elementary school, and shops, all within walking distance. We share our home with a kid-friendly kitty and a talking parrot.
Fred is a very involved, active father. He and Abigail like to have their wrestling time, reading time, and working on homework time. Fred works as a project estimator, is a partial owner of another car-related business, and is a Royal Ranger leader at our church. He enjoys fishing and the outdoors and had 4 year old Abigail fishing last summer.
Mary works 1 1/2 days a week as an office assistant for an electrical contractor, but her main job is to be a mother and homemaker. Mom and Abigail plant a garden and take care of the flowers in the summer. Mary enjoys taking Abigail and her friends to parks, swimming, State Fair, jump houses, and other child-related activities. She enjoys a good movie or book and likes to make jewelry.
We attend a very large evangelical church. The congregation
is ethnically mixed, very supportive of adoption, and
welcomes people of all nationalities. Fred and Mary
are both active in children’s areas of our church,
such as Children’s Church, nursery, and Royal Rangers.
Working in these areas has given us the opportunity
to meet, spend time with, and learn from many parents.
We want to raise our kids to be everything God made
them to be.
Relationships with family and friends are very important to us. Fred’s two sisters live in town, as do Mary’s parents. Mary’s sister and their family of six children live 30 minutes away and Fred’s Mom lives up North. We all get together regularly and are blessed to have extended families that support each other and work together. Grandma and Grandpa have been Abigail’s main babysitter.
We were able to spend part of the summer with Abigail’s birthmother, before the arrival of Abigail. She’s a wonderful lady, and we have had a very positive adoption experience. We have enough love and resources for a second child and would like our children to have a sibling relationship. We are hoping to adopt a little boy. Mary spent years babysitting and helping a family with four boys and would like a little guy to complete our family. (Although Abigail thinks we should adopt an older brother, two younger brothers, and two younger sisters!)
If you wish to do so, we are willing to maintain a line of communication between you and this child. Depending on your preferences, this may be anything from us sending notes and pictures keeping you updated on his progress, to writing letters, phone calls, or visiting in person. We plan to share information about the adoption with the child as soon as they are old enough to understand.
Thank you for reading this to learn a little about us. We hope it is a start in deciding if we are the ones you would want to entrust with your precious child. If you wish to know more, ECFA has our portfolio on file and we would be happy to meet with you with their help and answer any questions you might have.
Fred and Mary